Neck bondage doesn't have to be uncomfortable. And you can have the rest of the look, nearly, without a tie. One option is a band collar -- Justin wears those a fair amount, and they're nice.

Tangentially, I recall how much I liked how Richie looked the one time I bought him slacks, an oxford shirt, and a sweater vest. And how uncomfortable he felt in them. That created quite the epiphany about "the sort of man" I needed.